sweet surprise

After ten months of marriage, I sometimes feel that I've been married forever.

You do fight more, but the things you fight about are more, well, household-y.

"Wag mo nga akong agawan ng kumot, yung kumot mo, nasa ilalim ng unan mo!"

"Ipagluto mo naman ako ng almusal."

"Mag-ingat ka ngang mag-drive! Pag nagka-anak na tayo, iri-risk mo ba ang buhay niya?"

"Maligo ka, ang baho mo na..."

And in the everyday things like these, we sometimes forget to be romantic and all that stuff.

I sometimes look at my "attached" friends preparing for dates and vacations while my husband and I, consider our once-a-week dinner at Red Ribbon to be splurging already.

My good friend, Dette, who's also married, tells me of the time that she told her husband (as they were going in Jollibee), "Doon naman tayo kumain sa nakaupo tayo." To which Dennis told her, "Sige, umupo ka na dyan, ako na lang pipila."

What did we get ourselves into?

We can't help it, we get older and become adults, a large part of which we change priorities. That instead of a dinner for two worth Php 1500, we'd rather save it for a door of the house we want to have.

The good thing about marriage, though, is those little surprises that make it worth it.

Like that kiss on the cheek when your husband thought you were already asleep.

Or that new shirt in the closet that was bought because all your other shirts were old already.

Mark gave the sweetest surprise when he bought me an Ipod Nano, stuck it in the passenger's chair of our car and when I sat inside, texted me to say I had something under the seat. What surprise, when just seconds before, I was scolding him, he texts too much even when driving.

Kaden, my new companion :)

Well, marriage truly is that scenario when you be your worst and best selves and still be comforted by the fact that one person will stick around through it all.

Will I trade this comfort for an expensive dinner? Never.